Body positivity: The latest trend in Shame.

I hope this piece reblogged from author Natalie Swift will break a lot of eggs and make a masterful omelette.

The Midnight Ember

We’ve all come a long way from where we started.

Gone are the days where you see people telling you ‘how you have to look like to be loved’ and that ‘you just starve yourself for a few more days so that you’ll fit into a dress size’.

Today, we’ve truly managed to create something that could have been beautiful: Acceptance. Empowerment. Confidence. Freedom.

But somewhere along the way, we’ve gotten caught up in our heads and gone down the wrong road. A single blunder has changed everything.

People have started asking: if you truly loved your body, why would you want it to change?

That wouldn’t make sense.

A fairly simple, innocent question, really.

But there’s something far more menacing at work here. Shame.

Shame has found itself yet another expression, hiding behind banners that cry out messages of self-love.

All of a sudden, it’s…

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3 thoughts on “Body positivity: The latest trend in Shame.

  1. I just dropped 25 pounds partly for my health and partly because I wanted to look better. Now I feel better, know my body is healthier, and I’m happy to say I also look better (if you don’t notice a few sags that didn’t show in the same way 25 pounds ago.)
    I didn’t feel shame when I was heavier but I also didn’t feel good. And to an extent, I didn’t feel good about myself because I’d let myself pack on those pounds.
    I am happy happy happy with the “new” me!

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    • Congratulations! Wow. 25 is a lot no matter where you started. Has health benefits, medically and socially. I lost 15 since June, well back from the edge of the green zone on the BMI chart. At first, I wasn’t even trying. When I noticed something going on, I helped it. Seems to have leveled off now. So I’ll try to make this the new homeostasis position.

      Natalie’s post punches hard at the whole matter of being a shaming culture, on all sorts of issues. I guess one could say she said, “Shame on the culture!” But her personal conclusions about it for herself have a distinctly resonant ring for me.

      “I didn’t feel shame when I was heavier but I also didn’t feel good.” And feeling better is a nicer, healthier motivation than shame.


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